45+Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Quotes



Daniel Goleman is a psychologist and scientific writer, father of the so-called Emotional Intelligence. Through his books he affirms that a knowledge of our emotions is as important as the IQ to achieve professional success.

According to him, seeking a domain in the emotional field is also necessary to maintain quality social relationships. Being emotionally balanced will improve your self-confidence and your relationships will be of better quality.

Here you’ll find the most interesting Goleman quotes about Emotional Intelligence to let you see how important it is to have our emotions under control. Enjoy.

45 Daniel Goleman Quotes.

Emotional intelligence does not mean merely “being nice”. At strategic moment it may demand not “being nice”, but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfortable but consequential truth they’ve been avoiding. – Daniel Goleman

Out-of-control emotions can make smart people stupid. – Daniel Goleman

Motive and emotion share the same Latin root, motere, “to move.” Emotions are, literally, what move us to pursue our goals; they fuel our motivations, and our motives in turn drive our perceptions and shape our actions. – Daniel Goleman

Fear, in evolution, has a special prominence: perhaps more than any other emotion it is crucial for survival. – Daniel Goleman

We typically avoid situations or fields in which we fear we might fail; even if we actually have the abilities it takes to succeed at a job, if we lack the belief that we can handle its challenges, we can start to act in ways that doom us. The thought “I can’t do this” is crippling. – Daniel Goleman

There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse. It is the root of all emotional self-control, since all emotions, by their very nature, lead to one or another impulse to act. – Daniel Goleman

Directing attention toward where it needs to go is a primal task of leadership. – Daniel Goleman

The Responsive Classroom approach creates an ideal environment for learning. Every teacher should know about it. – Daniel Goleman

In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels. – Daniel Goleman

Good work involves the intertwining of three features: excellence, engagement, and ethics. – Daniel Goleman

Moral sentiments derive from empathy, and moral reflections take thinking and focus. One cost of the frenetic stream of distractions we face today, some fear, is an erosion of empathy and compassion. – Daniel Goleman

Our emotions have a mind of their own, one which can hold views quite independently of our rational mind. – Daniel Goleman

The more distracted we are, the less we can exhibit attunement and caring. – Daniel Goleman

And if there are any two moral stances that our times call for, they are precisely these, self-restraint and compassion. – Daniel Goleman

Daydreaming incubates creative discovery. – Daniel Goleman

Some studies have found that pessimists smoke and drink more, exercise less than optimists and are generally much more careless about their health. – Daniel Goleman

In a high IQ job pool, soft skills like discipline, drive, and empathy mark those who emerge as outstanding. – Daniel Goleman

The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain. – Daniel Goleman

Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses. – Daniel Goleman

If you do a practice and train your attention to hover in the present, then you will build the internal capacity to do that as needed, at will and voluntarily. – Daniel Goleman

People’s emotions are rarely put into words , far more often they are expressed through other cues. – Daniel Goleman

The key to intuiting another’s feelings is in the ability to read non-verbal channels , tone of voice , gesture , facial expression and the like. – Daniel Goleman

Emotional self-control, delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness, underlies accomplishment of every sort. – Daniel Goleman

Emotional self-awareness is the building block of the next fundamental emotional intelligence: Being able to shake off a bad mood. – Daniel Goleman

People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity. People who cannot marshal some control over their emotional life, fight inner battles that sabotage their ability for focused work and clear thought. – Daniel Goleman

There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy. They’re controlled by different parts of the brain. – Daniel Goleman

People’s beliefs about their abilities have a profound effect on those abilities. – Daniel Goleman

For better or worse, intelligence can come to nothing when the emotions hold away. – Daniel Goleman

We transmit and catch moods from each other in what amounts to a subterranean economy of the psyche in which some encounters are toxic, some nourishing. – Daniel Goleman

Emotional resilience comes down to how quickly we recover from upsets. People who are highly resilient, who bounce back right away—can have as much as thirty times more activation in the left prefrontal area than those who are less resilient. – Daniel Goleman

Mindfulness helps especially for those of us for whom every setback, hurt or dissapointment creates endless cascades of rumination. – Daniel Goleman

Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That’s why they look alike. – Daniel Goleman

In groups where there are high levels of emotional and social static—whether it be from fear or anger, from rivalries or resentments—people cannot offer their best. – Daniel Goleman

Happy, calm children learn best. – Daniel Goleman

CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence. – Daniel Goleman

As much as 80% of adult “success” comes from EQ. – Daniel Goleman

IQ and technical skills are important, but Emotional Intelligence is the Sine Qua Non of Leadership. – Daniel Goleman

One aspect of a successful relationship is not just how compatible you are, but how you deal with your incompatibility. – Daniel Goleman

People learn what they want to learn. If learning is forced on us, even if we master it temporarily, it is soon forgotten. – Daniel Goleman

Attention is a little noticed and underrated mental asset. – Daniel Goleman

Men are less sophisticated than the opposite sex in the byways of emotional life. – Daniel Goleman

The neural exchange between a grandparent and a toddler, between lovers or a satisfied couple, or among good friends, has palpable virtues. – Daniel Goleman

What seems to set apart those at the very top of competitive pursuits from others of roughly equal ability is the degree to which, beginning early in life, they can pursue an arduous practice routine for years and years. – Daniel Goleman

Simple inattention kills empathy, let alone compassion. So the first step in compassion is to notice the other’s need. It all begins with the simple act of attention. – Daniel Goleman

Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages. – Daniel Goleman

If you are doing mindfulness meditation, you are doing it with your ability to attend to the moment. – Daniel Goleman

Emotional literacy implies an expanded responsibility for schools in helping to socialize children. This daunting task requires two major changes: that teachers go beyond their traditional mission and that people in the community become more involved with schools as both active participants in children’s learning and as individual mentors. – Daniel Goleman